Many taboos are being questioned about their relevance, and relevance seems to be winning.
July 17, 2012
A well-known TV host confesses his sins in front of a nationwide audience, gets laughs and gets to keep his job.
A sportscaster for ESPN gets fired for the same offense and heads off to “sexual addiction” camp.
“It’s not my fault. It’s my addiction.”
Actually, this may be a rare triple standard.
Since if a woman committed the same offenses it wouldn’t be excused as sexual addition; she’d be called something else.
The term double standard, coined in the early 1950s, by whom we don’t know, refers to any set of principles containing different provisions for one group of people than for another. Esp: an unwritten code of sexual behavior permitting men more freedom than women.
Men were especially wise not to write it down.
Aristotle believed you couldn't judge unequal things equally. Which was good since nobody understood what he was saying and got him out of making any sense on the subject.
So it was left up to Greek mythology, where Apollo had a ball with Kyrene, while his twin sister Artemis, the virgin goddess, cavorted with nymphs in the woods. In real Athenian life, adultery was fine, as long as men committed it.
The Romans' believed that wine was a daily necessity of life and promoted its widespread availability to all classes. Except for women, where drunkenness was punishable by death.
Because of what it might lead to.
With centuries to think about these double standards, 18th century philosopher Jean-Jacques Rousseau in “Emile,” one of the most enlightened men of the age, saw the role of woman: "to console us, (men) to render our lives easy and agreeable; these are the duties of women at all times, and what they should be taught in their infancy."
James Boswell in his "Life of Samuel Johnson" recalled the good doctor believed that it was easier for women to be faithful, since he considered their sexual needs less pressing.
The more things change…how does that go again?
And yes, women have made, as they say, great strides. They're getting equal pay on the tennis courts, in spite of them not playing as many sets as men.
Further good news (and bad), in equalizing things, is that men receiving alimony seems to be climbing.
However, I’m not sure what we gain when feminists recently criticized President Obama for excluding women and playing in a male only basketball game. Funny, men aren’t that upset when they receive no invites to bridal showers.
There still are some differences.