A cautionary tale about running for political office nwsource.com Take a look at an interesting article we found.
Govt relies on Facebook "narcissism" to spot fake marriages, fraud arstechnica.com Take a look at an interesting article we found.
The Rising Tide of Narcissism: What B-Schools Can Do businessweek.com Take a look at an interesting article we found.
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November 08, 2010
Cultural narcissism lives.
A recent study, presented at the annual meeting of the Association for Psychological Science, shows that today’s college students are more narcissistic than ever.
Sara Konrath, a researcher at the U-M Institute for Social Research concludes that generation Y is taking self-absorption to a new level:
“College kids today are about 40 percent lower in empathy than their counterparts of 20 or 30 years ago, as measured by standard tests of this personality trait.”
Narcissism is the personality trait of egotism, vanity, conceit, or simple selfishness.
In varying degrees.
Freud coined the term after Narcissus who, in Greek myth, as you recall fell in love with his own reflection in a pool, and changed into the flower that bears his name.
The trouble-making nymph Echo was involved somehow, as she usually was.
Low self esteem, lack of getting attention as a child due to narcissistic parents, are some root causes, the experts say.
Certainly Facebook and Twitter have been blamed too.
In her article, “Virtual Friendship and the New Narcissism,” Christine Rosen compares social networking sites to the way aristocrats used to document their lives through self-portraits.
Nobody can dispute they're effective marketing tools, but on a personal level, they allow millions of people the colossal hubris to think that millions of other people out there want to know what they had for breakfast.
Or what color wallpaper they're contemplating.
Or personal issues they probably wouldn't tell their own mother.
But then you have to ask yourself (since this is about narcissism), "Self, are these social marketing tools merely an outlet for the 'look at me' generation, or is it the cause?"
Throw into the equation the fact that this generation seems to care more about the world than the last couple of generations, through social activism and a host of "green" causes.
So maybe, upon further reflection, does it matter if you're doing it for your own vanity, or the planet?
As long as you're doing it.
Even further, further reflection, it seems, is called for.
Greek Mythology: The Immortals commresearch.com Take a look at an interesting article we found.
History of Narcissism .grandiosity.org Take a look at an interesting article we found.
AN EXAMPLE OF 'HEALTHY' VS 'UNHEALTHY' NARCISSISM blogspot.com Take a look at an interesting article we found.
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Mirror, mirror on the wall,
Who is the most narcissistic of them all?
I am trying to invent a coin operated mirror. I am thinking those that cannot walk past a reflecting surface without stopping to preen, will make me rich. I might even be able to tweak it slightly ;for an extra coin, I will make you either taller,younger,slimmer, or soften the focus so you will still be recognizable, but not critically so....
more on the honor rollRoadYacht, Your product idea is the mirror image of the one I have been trying to come up with.
Bet venture capitalists galore are just waiting to invest in it.
See you at the bank. In these high crime days, don't want to get caught walking around with all of that money.
ROADYACHT: Be sure and Test Market the idea in the Pissoir of Paris ... You'll have a Semi-Captive Clientele .......
And; Aphrodite gets my Vote ... Best I can recall, she looks like Ava Gardner ... When she married Frank I was disappointed, when she married Jacob Yule, I figured there was hope for me .......
I don't like looking in the mirror. Not because I don't like what I see, though I do have to look twice sometimes to know it's me...but because it does seem to be a reflection of vanity, and I don't believe I've ever been very vain. I've never enhanced my looks with make-up and have a blasé attitude about how I'm dressed. I, I, I...hahaha...noticing how many times I was written. mmmm...I do love narcissus. The fragrance and the appeal of the bloom. I think they are in the same family as daffodils/jonquils which are my all time favorites.
I have a facebook page, but it's restricted to friends and family, so I'm not sharing with zillions of people and don't recount every minute detail of my life. In fact I post a lot of links for things I think are worthwhile and wish zillions would see them, but settle for the interested few who actually do. I don't view Facebook as quite the same indulgence as Twitter seems to be with the tweeter's every little detail painstakenly twitted/tweeted/twittered....Boring!
Maybe this generation's added concern for the world is because there are so many drastic changes occuring on the planet. ...or maybe it's just a reflection of self preservation and nothing more.
RY...can you tweak your mirror to let me stay at 35? I liked being that age.
Jane, I don't think you need a mirror to see the wonderful person you are inside
Interesting topic today; at opposite ends of the same pole are narcissism and self doubt or low self esteem. It can be a fine balance where we plant our feet. Culture also plays a part. In my humble opinion (is that false modesty?) and those often expressed by my kinsmen, western culture tend to promote individualism and "feel good"-ness. Asian cultures tend to be self effacing and we are embarrassed at being picked out. It would be obvious to anyone teaching Asian students that they cringe at having to speak out in class. Indeed if you hear Asian students, newly enrolled in western institutions of learning, talking amongst themselves, you would hear their blistering comments on who-and-who was wasting time in class, speaking nonsense just to be seen and heard. The product, at extreme ends, is a selfish culture or a boring homogenous approach to life where creativity is stifled.
Ummgawa, I checked out Wayne Watson's other song Watercolour ponies... awwwwww.... ;'( have you heard Cat's in the Cradle? Its along the same theme. I like the version by Cat Stevens http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bSwL9deXNW8 ;
My child arrived just the other day
He came to the world in the usual way
But there were planes to catch and bills to pay
He learned to walk while I was away
And he was talkin' 'fore I knew it, and as he grew
He'd say "I'm gonna be like you dad
You know I'm gonna be like you"
And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin' home dad?
I don't know when, but we'll get together then son
You know we'll have a good time then
My son turned ten just the other day
He said, "Thanks for the ball, Dad, come on let's play
Can you teach me to throw", I said "Not today
I got a lot to do", he said, "That's ok"
And he walked away but his smile never dimmed
And said, "I'm gonna be like him, yeah
You know I'm gonna be like him"
And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin' home son?
I don't know when, but we'll get together then son
You know we'll have a good time then
Well, he came home from college just the other day
So much like a man I just had to say
"Son, I'm proud of you, can you sit for a while?"
He shook his head and said with a smile
"What I'd really like, Dad, is to borrow the car keys
See you later, can I have them please?"
And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin' home son?
I don't know when, but we'll get together then son
You know we'll have a good time then
I've long since retired, my son's moved away
I called him up just the other day
I said, "I'd like to see you if you don't mind"
He said, "I'd love to, Dad, if I can find the time
You see my new job's a hassle and kids have the flu
But it's sure nice talking to you, Dad
It's been sure nice talking to you"
And as I hung up the phone it occurred to me
He'd grown up just like me
My boy was just like me
And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin' home son?
I don't know when, but we'll get together then son
You know we'll have a good time then
janej78~ Quick!!!! Get down to your garden centre & buy some Narcissus Paperwhite bulbs. No soil needed, just fill a bowl with pebbles & pop the bulbs in so their noses barely stick through the pebbles. Add water to where you guess the base of the bulbs are. Leave on a warm windowsill. You will have flowers by Christmas with the most amazing fragrance that will fill the whole house. The water needs to be topped up once in a while. Beneath my bed there are 25 pots with hyacinths poking their green noses through the soil. Next week, I'll put them in heat & light & they will be nice little Christmas gifts for friends.
Facebook - keeps me in touch with family & friends. I don't think I have ever posted about what's for breakfast on there, I save it for here when the topic of the day doesn't push any buttons for me.
Somebody (no names, no pack-drill) messaged me to ask of one of my yesterday's typos, seems I have invented a new currency, the Brazillion - my reply as to its worth was The value of Dolly Parton's assets. Any other ideas?
Forgot - Greek Gods & Goddesses - Hestia, Goddess of hearth & home.
oh shoot! I just realised that article on healthy vs unhealthy narcissism had the points i was trying to make! But here's something else....
Check out this thought provoking website which encourages people to share their 43 goals and then follows their progress. Only 2 goals in the top 50 referred to making a positive impact on someone else; at no, 44 "Be a better friend" and by a hair's breadth at no. 48 "Make a difference", whatever that means.
http://www.43things.com/zeitgeist/popular_goals ;
World's 10 most popular goal
lose weight 39456 people
stop procrastinating 28799 people
write a book 28785 people
Fall in love 26561 people
be happy 23870 people
Get a tattoo 22094 people
get married 20603 people
drink more water 20379 people
travel the world 20275 people
go on a road trip with no predetermined destination
Top 5 Goals completed by most people
Fall in love completed by 10448 people
Get a tattoo completed by 7905 people
get a job completed by 6908 people
Kiss in the rain completed by 6748 people
learn to drive completed by 4912 people
Its scary! I can identify with a couple of those goals! I did find this encouraging though. On hearing the song "The touch of the Master's hand" yesterday, my son had said he would like to have that "touch" and asked what he can do to achieve that. I quickly took opportunity to discuss it!
isn't that flower a jonquil?
They say "If you've got it, flaunt it. " Guests complain of the lack of mirrors in my place. I'd rather use the space to hang a picture. The first time I tried on specs, I exclaimed "Eeek! They make me look old" the saleslady tried to reassure me that they looked great "Yes!" I wailed, "But I can see my wrinkles!"
I just hope everybody else is too vain to wear specs. My stalker isn't looking great. I glimpse her reflection in shop windows and suchlike shiny surfaces. She's limping along on her bad knee & doesn't care if the wind blows her grey hair. Alas, the veg patch won't get dug over 'cos that's her diggin' leg.
Willie Trask~ Yes, it is a Jonquil. A rose by any other name would smell as sweet.
No twitter, no facebook, no myspace..........I have never seen a facebook page...........my little brother says I need to get w/ the real world..........I am, thank you............ a whole generation of young people w/ no secrets or mysteries for others to ferret out because they have told everyone their everything...........
By the way, if you facebook, good for you; JANE.........it seems like you have stumbled upon the perfect way to do it......only friends & family.................& good to see you Miss JANE!!!!!!!!!
I stayed home & am going to get my raw throat checked..................ouch.......................
SPRING F..............I did not know that Cat Stevens did that song also. I have to say that the Harry Chapin version is THE one.... he wrote it & his version I love. A chilhood friend loved his music & wrote to him & spent a summer travelling on tour w/ him in high school...........he sai that he was an incredibly kind person...................
Enjoy your day all............
Where is everyone? They must be out twittering or something. Anyway, interesting point about it taking a certain amount of healthy narcissism to think you can change the world. I think I'll go look in the mirror, myself. Anyone grow narcissus?
Apring Fragrance- I was attending a Christian men's conference at the Georgia Dome, with 62,000 other lije minded men, one of the topics was being a loving "there" Dad, reprioritizing your work life so your kiss would grow up with Dad ever present. They talked about a well known country singer that made that decision. Out walked Ricky Skaggs and sang "Cat's in the cradle", not a dry eye to be found.
I'm happy you were right there when your son inqiired. It's exceptionally rare. I'll pray for you.
The great French poet Baudelaire once wrote, to everyman, in Au
Lecteur that we all know that awful beast Ennui. I don't know
exactly what he is talking about, I think Ennui is a french gastrointestinal
disease although I would wager there are those who might disagree. He ends this
dedication poem of Fleurs du Mal with the words...hypocrite
lecteur!—mon semblable—mon frère...loosely translated hypocritical
reader, my likeness, my brother. I like the phrase better out of context
because it reminds me that we are all hypocritical in some way at some time, it
is a human frailty that we are able to battle at our convenience or even use to
our advantage. Much like telling a white lie, I have been at times a white
hypocrite.
When I look in the mirror I see my face, and the
faces of all who went before me and those who will follow. Ain't we a purty
bunch of yahoos!
jmr~ see my earlier post on growing paperwhite narcissus. Loads of them in my woodland garden, and daffodils. Too many. Some get dug up each year & replanted by streetlight on urban grass verges. (Watch out for the dog poo) It's a great Hahaha to drive by them when they pop up & think "I did that" - well, it's better than graffiti. So maybe I'm a guerrilla narcissist.
paolos~ I thought ennui is that dereadful lethargy, boredom, bordering on or over the edge of depression thing that happens to people.
Hazel ~ that it is but I think it only happens to the French and to the ever alert Frenchman it is a deadly beast (I am just paraphrasing, mind you). Perhaps if they had feared Hitler more and Ennui less, the second war would have ended at the Maginot line.
It is, Hazel. Mirrors, I used them mostly for decorative effect in the house. Empty wall? Mirror. Bathroom? For the necessary vanities, the morning ritual. I don't like seeing myself in a mirror, I don't see me, much like Jane was talking about earlier. It's not an age thing, it's me, it doesn't look like me. Which is utterly inane, of course, because if I'm not in the mirror, then where else am I -- it's got to be me in there. I'd recognize me on the street if I saw me, but who I'd recognize wouldn't be the woman in the mirror............Philosophy 101 sounding drivel...LOL...I will say I do wonder what happens to the faces that hand mirrors especially have reflected over the years. I have an ivory hand mirror (vanity mirror), all yellowed now, it's old, it was my grandmother's, she left it to me, there's an ornate "P" etched into the ivory -- her name was Pauline, so it worked, but more than that Nana said I was her soul reborn, and I'm wondering, now that I'm at the age she was when she passed it on to me, when she died -- will I one day pick it up and see her face? Most unlikely. But where did her reflection go? Is it still in there -- ooh, the stuff of ghosts, or maybe more "The Picture of Dorian Gray." Now THAT is a scary concept, one's painted picture changing in tune to the changes to your heart and soul...that would be some mirror, a mirror that could reflect one's soul. Would you want one, to keep check on your inner progress or lack thereof? I don't know if I would...;)
The government's psychological profile of Saddam Hussein:
1. Narcissistic personality disorder;
2. Paranoia;
3. Absolutely no concern for the effects of his actions upon others.
.....people with this profile, in positions of power, are the most dangerous.
The problem is not with the mirror, a mere reflecter, but with our programmed minds that are trained to see something that may or may not be real. The narcissistic one is usually at the core quite insecure. I like myself a whole lot. Not because I find myself exceptional but just because I am alive and I am all I have to work with. The human body is quite a remarkable thing and the human mind even more so, but that old gazillion (+ some) year old soul is a piece of God stuff lying beneath all the carbon and oxygen and other elements and is what the mirror can not reflect as it is of that same material in flux that one day falls apart and must be reconstructed. Tommy Typical and the rest of this wonderful village will one day find that what they are most proud of is what they have always been all along, a hunk of burnin' love. As Walter Brennan would say, "No brag. just fact."
SF- I answered on my phone while being a passenger in a bumpy truck. I felt like I just needed to edit and corrrect for the intended effect.
Spring Fragrance- I was attending a Christian men's conference at the Georgia Dome, with 62,000 other like minded men, one of the major topics was being a loving "there" Dad, reprioritizing your work life so your kids would grow up with Dad ever present. They talked about a well known country singer that made that decision. Out walked Ricky Skaggs and sang "Cat's in the cradle", his testimony was inspiring and as he sang he fought back tears, there was not a dry eye to be found.
I'm happy you were right there when your son inqiired. It's exceptionally rare. I'll pray for you over this matter, our children and their well being, both physically and spiritually, should be of equal concern. I am speaking, of course, to those so inclined and also those "with ears to hear" .
Regardless of your belief system, bless you all.
AArgh, still typos.
Spring, that particular event was fourteen years ago. It was a life changing event.
I have done a lot of things wrong but I tell you this, I married above my station. When I see myself getting older in the mirror and see how beautiful my bride still is after twenty five years of marriage and mostly tolerating me, I am pleased with the man I see staring back at me every morning. The brain inside that face looking back at me made one excellent decision, and she will be home at 6:00 today. I am still excited to see her.
me ...... I liked looking in the Fun House Mirrors at the Riverview Amuzement Park, circa the '50s. I guess I figured they leveled the playing field, even if just for a few moments..... from there it was a hop-skip-and-a-jump to the Shoot-the-Chutes, The Bobs and the Silver Flash ....
You good people remind me of a time long ago... a young man walking down Peachtree Street in Atlanta GA wondering what life was about and what it took to make it in the world, to provide for a young family and all thereunto appertaining.
As I walked along I spotted a young man reflected in one of the shop windows along the way, well groomed, handsome and thought "Hell, I might as well just hang it up and go home; with competition like that I have no chance.
As I turned to leave I noticed that the young man also turned and realized the young man was me. I remember thinking "Sumbitch!!! Maybe I am a force to be dealt with!" I guess the truth was/is somewhere between my first thoughts and my latter.
jmr, healthy narcissim? Maybe. It does take some to strive, survive and to thrive I think. But what I am proudest of is that I am what I've always been...a child of God, a husband, father of three healthy, head-screwed -on-straight children, blessed beyond measure and far beyond anything I deserve...but TT said that didn't he?!
PARK.......one of my grandmas........her name was Pauline.............It's a good name it is....................
PARK4 ~ more about
what happens to the faces reflected over the years...
There is a poem of Rilke's You, Beloved, Who
Were Lost, with the following lines
"und die spiegel manchmal der Läden der
Händler
waren noch schwindlich von dir und gaben erschrocken
mein zu
plötzliches Bild."
-- RM Rilke
I have never really liked the ways it has been translated, because the
concept of the lost image was somehow lost in translation. I like this one the
best.
and sometimes the mirrors in the merchants' shops,
still dizzy because of you, startled,
reveal my image too abruptly to me.
That may be about what happened to you, Mister Hall, the windows were
startled to see such a dapper young lad, after absorbing the image
of some young lass that had just sashayed by before you. They may have still been
dizzy from her looks and spun some of it back your way. I'll bet you did look
extraordinarily dapper that day.
One last thing before I trundle homeward. I don't
know how Y'all get by with just one music break. Where is that Stoney fella?
or Willie Trask?
You are the only one who really knew me at
all...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-OiV_5kEt6A
Is anyone else hungry?
PAOLOS.......I am always hungry................great posts by the way young man..........
Paolos. That may be the song for the website. Thank you.
You know, in a convoluted way (and I mean that in a good sense) it just
might be the perfect song for your sight, but don't thank me, Jax, thank Phil.
Thanks Bebe. Have you heard from George C yet or is he playing hard to
get? And get ready to duck I expect Jax will be tossing a heart your way
imminently.
Bebe!!!! {{HUGE HEART}}
(I'm on my phone and can't make YOUR heart!)
SF, you're a friend.
Thank you Hazel...I will...I love the fragrance and if it's as easy as you say, then even I should have success. I'd say you're a narcissusist.
Park4..love your 2:51 ...and my mother-in-law was Pauline.
Bebe....hey darlin', there are a few of us here who share our FB pages, though I've been pretty lax lately about checking in. I'm with you, I'm always hungry too...I love food.
Bert...The headmaster of the school I went to was a narcissist...10 out of 10 on the scale of narcissistic personality disorder. What a nightmare.
Paolo, speaking of Baudelaire...this quote is for Jax ..."as a small child, I felt in my heart two contradictory feelings, the horror of life and the ecstasy of life."
Jane, how could you know so much so soon? xxoo