George Washington, General, First President, Britain's most revered enemy and Barbecue lover.
April 19, 2012
We probably all have one.
Although there is good news.
According to the American Psychiatric Association, if you have it, you are not a sociopath or a psychopath.
Since guilt reveals you have a conscience.
And just as there's good and bad cholesterol, there's good and bad guilt.
For instance, if anything can overcome procrastination, it’s guilt — if you feel guilty enough that you haven't finished that project, you might just finish it.
As a manipulative tool it's superlative.
If someone resists in doing something for you, simply remind them of all the times you've been there for them.
Even if you haven't.
On the reverse side of the coin, guilt can be a serious problem if you can’t say no to friends, loved ones and coworkers and wind up resenting them.
When it’s your inability to say,” I can’t wait all day in your house for the cable guy."
Therapists, by the way, say that the only way to start saying no is by practicing.
It's a short word.
Although Albert Ellis, who developed a school of psychology, called Rational Emotive Therapy, says the problem with guilt is figuring out what to do with the kind of guilt you have.
Yes, that helps.
So...was it a family trait or did you learn it all on your own?